Open Tabs: 4 February 2018 (or: A Cry For Help)

I always have a bunch of open tabs on my browser (I know, “join the club”, right?).  It’s a problem of information overflow. I start reading one thing, that contains links to other interesting things or references stuff that I google, each piece fuzzy at the edges with threads that trail off into other corners of the internet. And I love learning new things, so this quickly gets out of hand. Before I know it, I’ve got 25 tabs going and my computer is freaking out about a lack of accessible memory and I find myself resenting my wife when she opens a new tab to check her email or look up something of her own. That’s precious tab real estate that I could clutter up with some random junk I will likely never get around to reading! Ridiculous, I know, but these are the thoughts we rightly keep to ourselves and (usually) never share with others.

In my never-ending quest to keep the tabs from taking over my computer like that old sci-fi novel about an alien grass or some plant-like thing that falls to earth and starts spreading like an invasive species that I refuse to look up as I write this in order to have an accurate reference because that’s kind of my whole problem, I’m just going to dump some of these tabs here. That way I’ll have someplace to put all these threads and start fresh each week with a clean rabbit hole to go down. And you, semi-fictitious reader of my blog, can see what I’ve been reading, or at least interested in, each week.

China’s Path to the Long Night: The Social Credit Score

The Road to Serfdom

  • I did not realize this was a 73 page document when I clicked the link

The Messaging App Fueling Syria’s Insurgency


To Make Our World Anew: May Day special ft. Robin D.G. Kelley

Must history have losers?

This might not seem like that many open tabs, but I’ve been trying to read and/or close open tabs all week to cut the number down. I have not read/listened to any of these all the way through, and most of them I haven’t read at all. Maybe I’ll get back to them later, maybe I won’t, and maybe if you’re reading this one of these links sounds interesting to you and you’ll make it one of your open tabs. If you get around to it, let me know how you liked it.

P.S. It was “The Day of the Triffids” by John Wyndham published in 1951. I couldn’t stop myself. Send help.

1k/Wk, Fitness, Writing

If you talk to me about running, I’m probably going to get awkward.

When people try to talk to me about running or working out, I get nervous and awkward. I’m not really sure what to say. I’ve been exercising regularly since January, and I’ve lost over 40 pounds. I ran my first 5k in early July, and my wife is really proud of me, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised when it comes up. But I have found myself feeling embarrassed to talk about it.

So I tell them some of the truths. One of the truths is that most people aren’t really interested in fitness unless they’re already into fitness. When someone has an interest that they’re passionate about, especially when it’s a new thing for them, there’s a tendency to want to talk about it endlessly. It’s new, it’s exciting, and you’re learning all these cool things that you want to share with people. But something I learned a while back is that most people really don’t care, they were just asking to be polite. And they’ll listen to be polite, but they’ll die a little inside as you go on about body weight workouts and interval training and what your personal record is and how that’s improved over the last few months and the plans you have to do better in your next race and the benefits of cross training and strength training and they just don’t care. Or they know more than you and you sound like a moron. Even your closest family and friends, unless they’re into the same thing, they don’t really care, they’re just being nice. So I don’t want to be That Guy who suddenly has gotten into fitness and is now trying to talk everyone’s ear off about it like they’re a born-again Christian and you, my friend, need to hear the Good Word and be Saved.

Or I’ll tell them a different truth, that it’s because when I was growing up, people who were into exercise and fitness were jocks, and jocks were a completely different species than me and my friends. In elementary school I was bigger than all the other kids, and I learned early on to be careful because of my size so I became reluctant to play too rough. I never had a competitive disposition anyway, and I would rather play superheroes than baseball. A little bit later I was a fat smart kid who was into science fiction and fantasy novels and comic books. I was big, so everyone assumed I’d play football, but I just wanted to read books. I did play football for one year, but I didn’t get it. Why do I want to smash into the other team and hurt them? Why is it so much different if we win or if they win? Why are you making me run up this hill so many times?! No one could explain the benefits of physical fitness to me in a way I’d understand, so I finished the season and that was that.

In high school, I discovered punk rock, and it was electrifying. I started forming bands with my friends and before you knew it we had our own little punk rock enclave in the middle of our small town Michigan high school. Punk rock was something that we could call our own, it was a tribe where we all fit in because none of us fit in anywhere else. Now there was a clear dividing line, it was Us vs Them, and Them was all the ignorant, narrow-minded jock and redneck assholes that, it seemed to us, comprised the majority of the rest of the student body.

(Looking back, it wasn’t all like that. Sure, there were assholes and we had conflicts, but most of the other people in school were scared, insecure kids like us, just trying to figure out who they were. But that’s maybe something for another day.)

Today, I’m 32 years old, and I feel distant and cut off from that fired up, idealistic punk rock kid that I used to see myself as. When I went off to college I quit the band I was in. The few new friends I made had different interests and weren’t as taken by the angry three chord anthems that spoke directly to my heart. I got out of school and, within a couple of years, settled into an office job, where I worked diligently until I got promoted to manager and developed a healthy drinking problem. I was smoking all the time and drinking most days, and I wasn’t happy with myself because I was just another fucking office drone doing a bullshit inconsequential job making money for somebody else and throwing my own cash down the bottomless whirlpool cesspit of the American Dream. And I drank myself stupid every night and every weekend so I wouldn’t have to think about what that punk rock kid would think about where I had gotten myself. And, blind stinking drunk, I wouldn’t have to do the hard work of digging myself out of that predicament.

But eventually I did. I quit drinking, and I quit smoking, and I quit that fucking job. I’m back at school now, hopefully for a career that will be more fulfilling. I’ve got a daughter, and I exercise 4-5 days a week, and I am working constantly, and I don’t know who I am right now. I’m in the process of redefining myself after pulling out of my alcoholic nosedive, but I feel like I have no identity. It’s coming back in bits and pieces, and I’m rediscovering old music and ideas that excited me before and I’m finding new music and ideas that speak to me now. But when I think of that punk rock kid who didn’t want to go to college and let his parents talk him into it, I can’t help but think that he’d be confused and disappointed in me right now. I can’t help but feel like I let him down, like I’m still betraying him because I’m becoming one of Them.

And that’s not all. Dig a little deeper, a harder truth. I did let him down. I let myself down. I abandoned pursuit of my dreams and wasted the better part of a decade chasing the bottom of one bottle after another. Hiding from reality and just drifting along with the flow of life from one thing to the next. I’m grateful for my family and my wife, because without their influence I could have ended up in a much worse situation. I’m eternally thankful that our marriage survived long enough for me to get sober, and now we have our daughter Molly and that’s just the best thing I could never have imagined before it happened. But I’m still disappointed in myself.

For me, fitness is linked with my sobriety and with my self-reinvention. When I work out, I have a lot of raw, personal conversations with myself.

“C’mon fat boy, keep going. You gonna quit now? One more set. You can do one more set, fat boy.”

“Don’t be weak. Don’t stop now, you’re not weak, you’re not going to keep being weak.”

“What, this is too hard for you? Would you rather have a pint of vodka and a pack of smokes? C’mon fat boy, one foot in front of the other.”

“You don’t have to be fast, you just don’t get to quit. You don’t get to quit, you fucking loser. You fucking loser. You fucking loser.”

I say a lot of mean, nasty things to myself while I’m working out, because I am not happy with a part of myself and I am trying to beat it into submission. I am trying to purge the weakness from myself and make myself stronger, faster, better. And yeah, I’m trying to punish myself for letting me down so fucking badly. Fitness has become a very personal, somewhat private pursuit for me. It’s something I’m proud of, but it’s also tied up with something I’m deeply ashamed of. So when someone asks me about running, I think about pushing myself and berating myself and calling myself names just to keep putting one foot in front of the other. I think about gritting my teeth and telling my body to shut up and ignoring the ache in my muscles and dragging my legs made of lead and iron up and forward and down and up and forward and down and oh god it’ll be done any minute now, just keep going. I think about looking at myself in the mirror and being proud that I can see my progress and immediately being ashamed at my vanity. I think about how I gave up on pursuing my goals and drank myself stupid for years and how I do not want to give up again.

I think about my daughter, and how I’ll be damned if I’m going to let her down. Every kid should think their dad is a superhero, and I will be a goddamn superhero for her.

So when people try to talk to me about running or working out, I’ll just tell them “yeah, it’s been going good.”

1k/Wk, Writing

Raw Words – No Future To Speak Of

You wake up one day
And realize
All your heroes are fake
All your dreams are a lie
Pre-packaged and marketed
Aspirations to buy

Back in the day
Back when I was a youth
They said there’s no future
But that ain’t the truth
The future’s an endless paved plain
We trudge through
Heading into the gloom
Of our unremarkable tomb

But I’ll take a picture
So I can share the view
With all of my friends
That I never talk to



Fealty and Online Global Terrorism (via Global Guerillas)

Wanted to share a couple of posts from John Robb’s always thought-provoking blog Global Guerillas. He’s got some interesting thoughts on what the recent attacks in Orlando and Paris might mean for the future of global terrorism. If this is truly the direction that Isis is taking their recruiting tactics, it gives them a reach that no terrorist group we’ve dealt with before has had. Europe has suffered from terror attacks much more than the U.S., in large part because of its proximity to the Middle East, but also because the U.S. generally does a better job of integrating immigrants into local communities. The tactic that John Robb describes in these pieces might allow Isis or other groups that come along after them to radicalize and empower individuals within otherwise integrated communities.

As Robb says, “The lone wolf terrorist does not exist.” But through the internet and the use of online communities, terrorist networks can find the individuals within these communities that feel isolated and frustrated and angry. They can give these men a new community to be a part of, one that echoes their anger and resentment and tells them that’s the right way to feel. And now, through this new tactic of making promises in exchange for fealty that is consecrated by an act of terror, they have a way to inspire these otherwise isolated individuals into action. This may be the new shape of terrorism in the 21st century.

Fealty and Modern Terrorism

Online Fealty

ISIS has found a way to pierce US counter-terrorism defenses